Whites Are More Likely to Date Blacks Than South and East Asians. Why?
In the eyes of other races, black people are often considered less attractive compared to white people. When a Black person dates outside their race, they tend to choose a White partner in about 70% of cases. East Asians consider black people the least attractive, followed by Indians and South Asians, then Southeast Asians, before Westerners. In this video, I aim to explore why East Asians, and Asia as a whole, tend to view black people as the least attractive.
Firstly, East and South Asian cultures place a high value on pale or white skin, often considered the ideal of beauty. As we all know, black Africans are scarce in that branch of nature’s endowment. For instance, around 60% of Korean women are willing to date a White person, while only about 0.2% would consider dating a Black person. Among Chinese people, the numbers are slightly higher: 70% of Chinese women would be open to dating a White person, whereas only about 0.5% would be willing to date a Black person. The situation is even less favourable for Black people when it comes to dating Indians, as they consider dark skin simply unacceptable. However, black people do have more success among White women, with approximately 30% expressing no issue with dating a Black partner.
Here comes the paradox: eight out of ten black African women indicate that they would have no problem dating white men. Five out of ten feel the same way about dating Chinese and Korean men, while only two out of ten express the same willingness regarding Indian men. In countries such as Japan, Taiwan, the Philippines, Indonesia, Vietnam, Thailand, and throughout the Arab world, most women prefer not to date black men. Still, they are open to dating white or Hispanic men. Why are black men, or black people in general, the least desired? Is it racism? Are we considered unattractive? Or do we have a reputation for being poor parents or people? The answer lies somewhere within these many questions.
In Chinese, Korean, and, to some extent, Japanese cultures, Confucian traditions heavily influence relationships and marriages. These expectations often include a committed partner who acts as a traditional provider, demonstrates financial stability, and is willing to invest in the relationship. Marriages are viewed as unions between two families, with a strong emphasis on family-orientated values. Wives are typically expected to maintain a close, respectful, and sometimes subordinate relationship with their in-laws. Additional expectations may include having a stable career, being debt-free, and coming from a reputable family.
These qualities are not typical of black Africans or even black Westerners. Profanity, public nudity, high body count, and casual sexual behaviour are generally unacceptable. Sexual matters are typically kept private. There is a strong emphasis on modesty, social order, and the procreative purpose of sex. Nudity and revealing clothing are largely viewed as taboo.
In contrast, these are not qualities that black Africans or black Westerners possess. Black Africans and black Americans, black British, black Canadians, black Brazilians, and all other blacks are generally promiscuous, dressing in revealing outfits, and are loud and boisterous. This idea doesn’t fit in the Confucian tradition of East Asia.
However, it must be asked, do white people necessarily fail to tick the Confucian box? So, why are they open to dating white people but not blacks? Easy: their skin is pale, and their countries were role models for East Asian countries. East Asians have admired white people since they were poor and continue to view them positively. Thus, with whites, they are willing to break all the boundaries. It’s a fact! Black is associated with being poor, and Africans haven’t helped the black cause one bit; instead, Africa has made it even harder for every black Westerner to overcome the stigma when they travel outside the West into Asia and East Asian territories, as they share the same skin colour.
For centuries, black skin has often been associated with African poverty, underdevelopment, tribal life, and a lack of intelligence. As a result, the world has formed a perception of black people that extends beyond physical appearance but is influenced by the culture and etiquette of black Africans. This perception has, in many cases, negatively impacted the attractiveness of black people, both in Africa and among African Americans.
People in East Asia, or the Asian continent, are slowly getting to know black people. They historically viewed dark skin as representing the lower class, while white skin has been associated with the upper class. Unfortunately, black people happen to naturally have the same skin colour that fits the definition of ugliness to Asians.
For Koreans and Japanese, the issue may not stem from hatred or outright racism but rather a lack of attraction, which is a subjective matter. People are entitled to their preferences, and there is nothing inherently wrong with that.
Conversely, white people are different. They are naturally adventurous and open-minded. This is why most black people who date outside their race date white people. Interracial marriages are relatively common in Europe and North America, but remain quite rare in many parts of East Asia.
Interracial marriages between white and black people have a higher rate of divorce compared to marriages among white couples. Additionally, most relationships between black and non-black people do not result in marriage. On average, a twenty-year-old African woman has had 8 sexual partners, while an Asian woman of the same age has had about 3. The tendency towards promiscuity appears to be higher among black individuals—whether they are American, African, European, or South American—compared to East Asians, Indians, Pakistanis, Bangladeshis, or Arabs. Many non-black people who date black people do so out of a fetishised perception that black women are more accessible for casual sex, based on societal stereotypes.
Ultimately, this situation is rooted in cultural representations, not solely in racism, because these representations have inadequately showcased their strengths to the world. There is a pervasive image of black culture as poor, uneducated, loud, dirty, aggressive, and lacking emotional intelligence and ambition. These qualities can undermine the foundations of relationships and marriages. Many women feel deterred by men who seem to lack these attributes. Even among white women, those over 35 are less likely to date black men compared to those under 25.
Examining the dynamics of attraction from the perspective of black Africans reveals concerning trends. A white man in Africa is living in heaven. Black African women often show a preference for white men, even if those white men are overweight, in comparison to fit black men of equal or even greater status. Similarly, Indian and Arab men in black Africa tend to attract more attention from black women than black men of similar or higher status. This raises questions about racial biases, suggesting that East Asians and Indians may not necessarily be racist, given that black women in Africa often prefer white partners. The cultural perception in Africa seems to be that lighter skin is viewed as more attractive by black women. The lighter your skin, even in Africa, the more attractive black people in Africa find you. Is there something fundamentally wrong with dark skin?
Historically, behaviours such as dressing provocatively, having multiple partners, being sexually promiscuous, and having children outside of marriage were stigmatised in many black African countries during the 1970s. In contrast, the percentage of single-parent households is notably low in countries like India (5%), Korea (6.5%), and Japan (12%). In comparison, Botswana has a staggering 65%, South Africa 60%, Kenya 27%, and both the DR Congo and Zimbabwe around 25% each. These statistics suggest that the values and social expectations in black African societies may be less stringent than those in white and East Asian cultures.
Consequently, there are many areas in which black people may fall short of the expectations held by whites and Asians. This leads to a growing reluctance among these groups to date black people. Skin colour alone poses a significant barrier, but even if that barrier were overlooked, other unmet expectations might still impede potential relationships.
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By Ikechukwu ORJI
